Here are 10 alpha male traits – these alpha male characteristics belong to all natural leaders, and confident men. If you do want to become the alpha male of your peer group then read the following traits and note which you don't posses - then you just have to work towards these and change yourself. The Alpha Male:

Never Qualifies Himself: He makes no apologies, doesn’t feel the need to explain his behavior. Hes always comfortable in himself so he does not feel the need to. They never really boast about success - they don’t need to and they dont mind if you don't like them.

Talks Slow: Talking fast is a way to qualify yourself to someone – essentially you are scared they will stop listening or get disctracted by something more interesting, so you get your point out quick so they will listen – it has the opposite effect, and it shows your lower status.

Doesn’t Look Around: He’s the focus of attention – he is unconcerned with what other people are doing.

Is The Focus of Attention: He is centrally positioned in the group, everyones body language faces him and is positive towards him.. Expect to be the leader, step up and expect this status and youwill start to take it on.

Take The Glory: When you tell a funny joke they take it one further and steal the laugh, when you do something cool they congratulate you for it and give you their approval. An alpha will generally ridicule bad ideas, but when he hears one he likes he will add to it, or put his own spin onto the idea - thus making it his own and keeping leadership of the group.

Are Never Impressed: They can be self centered and are often unimpressed with the achievements of other people. They are high achievers and they've "seen it all before" - it takes a higher value to really impress them - their standards are high in every way.

Enjoy a Challenge: They enjoy making friends with beta males, but with another alpha guy they often become “enemies”. He will always compete for his position at the top, he has to be the dominant leader, and usually he will enjoy this process.

Don’t Answer Questions: They often give a non-sensical or a basic response to questions you ask them where you are trying for report – by asking you to “guess” they are controling the frame and lead the interaction.

Don’t Care About You: They are self focused, you are there to entertain them, but they are above you – he believes world evolves around him and everyone is there to help him, entertain him or sleep with him – as he chooses.

Can Show A Nicer Side and Get Away With It: This goes back to not caring what people think. he can be nice / genuine / down to earth if he wants to and on the occasions that he is he gets even more credit for it - he isn’t a geek trying to be nice for validation, he is a cool guy who has a down to earth side sometimes.

Is Comfortable In His Own Skin: Ultimately he is comfortable within his own skin, this is one of the the characteristics of the alpha male – If you can do this then everything else will follow.

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Want to know what’s the secret to discovering how to flirt with a guy?

It’s a good thing you found this article.

Stop being the only girl out of your group who can’t get a guy!

Are you wondering why your friends all have a guy in their life and you don’t?

Could your lack of dating success be because you don’t know how to flirt with a guy?

So what are the tips you need to remember to flirt properly?

1. Well, first of all you need to make yourself look good. Please don’t get the impression that I’m saying you have to look like a skinny super model, but what I am saying is that you need to at least pay attention to how you present yourself. Are those shirts flattering on you? Are you wearing the right perfume? Do you need more mascara? Remember, we live in a shallow world, and men are very shallow. That’s why you need make yourself look good at all times

2. Keep the conversation topic about him and keep him interested in what you have to say. It’s a common fact that guys love to talk about themselves so if you talk about him, he’s going to think you’re the most interesting person alive. It’s really important to be a girl who knows how to listen. Just keep in mind not to get caught up in the trap about blabbing about yourself, get him interested in the conversation first before you talk about yourself.

Make him like you and don’t annoy him or make him feel horrible, keep yourself positive and don’t give him negative body language. Also, guys really like girls who gently touch them on the arm or the leg if she likes him, so please don’t be shy and let him know!.

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by Dean Cortez, best-selling author and international traveler
 

I’ll come out and say it: I’ve always had a “thing” for Asian women. I want to get Asian girls more than any other type of woman out there.

I’ve traveled the world and dated women of many different ethnicities. Busty California blondes. Lusty Latin women. Sexy black girls. Tall, model-type Eastern European women. Girls from big cities, and small towns.

You name the type, I’ve dated ‘em.

But to me, nothing compares to Asian women. A lot of guys feel the same way I do: we think Asian women are the most beautiful, exotic, and erotic women on earth. There’s something about their silky black hair, delicate features, alluring eyes, and perfect bodies that drives us wild.

Now, I’m not going to generalize and tell you that all Asian women are the same. In fact, there are HUGE differences between the women of different Asian countries and cultures. Each requires a different strategy, if you’re going to meet them and build a romantic relationship.

White girls will mock you for admitting your preference for Asian women. They’ll call it “yellow fever,” Which is a ridiculous and inaccurate term, since I have yet to meet an Asian woman with a “yellow” complexion — their smooth, porcelain skin ranges from pale (most Chinese, Korean and Japanese women) to the darker, more exotic complexion of the beautiful women of the Philippine islands, Thailand, and Indonesia.

White women will say that your desire for Asian women is about wanting a “submissive” wife who will cook and clean, and not talk back — a woman who doesn’t have a mind of her own.

This is another absurd stereotype. I’ve dated Asian women who are FAR more intelligent, sensitive, passionate and independent than white girls who are only looking to land a wealthy husband and drive him crazy with their never-ending demands — and then take him to the cleaners in divorce court. 

Asian women BELIEVE in romance and finding a lifetime partner — unlike Western women, who often get married and think, “Well, I’ll give this a try and see how it works out — and if it doesn’t, at least I’ll get the house and the kids, and a fat check every month!”

Asian women WANT to take care of their man, and in return, they expect to be loved and respected. Asian women also place a huge importance on family, and DO NOT have the same prejudices about age that Western women do.

They don’t CARE so much about age differences. It is perfectly normal for an Asian woman in her 20s or 30s to fall in love with a significantly older man — and if she’s a “good girl” (my book explains how to find this out), her love for this man will be 100% genuine.

This is completely the opposite from the Western world, where men get “put out to pasture” once they reach a certain age. In America, a divorced guy who is 40 or 50 years old is made to feel ANCIENT! He thinks his dating options are limited to women his own age, who are usually divorced, bitter single mothers.

In Asia, it’s perfectly normal for a guy in his 40s or 50s to be in love with a gorgeous, hard-bodied young woman in her 20s! No one points fingers. It’s part of the culture. (I’ve known men who got divorced in America and figured their sex life was OVER…and they experienced a REBIRTH once they got to Asia!)

My “Dating Asian Women” program finally explains the REALITIES of dating Asian women, and explains exactly how to meet, attract and date women from different countries and cultures.

Maybe you are you are an international traveler, as I am. (I have spent many years living in Asian countries.) You want to know the BEST hot spots for meeting the hottest single Asian women.

Or, maybe you want to meet Asian women in your area. As you know, beautiful Asian women are everywhere — in virtually every city around the world, there are neighborhoods and districts that have large Asian populations.

Or, perhaps you are among the missions of Western men who are looking to meet an Asian woman on the Internet. (Asian dating sites are some of the most popular websites out there!)

Although I recommend internet dating, you NEED to know certain rules and realities before you attempt to “get serious with an Asian woman that you meet online. My book tells you about the “red flags” you need to watch out for, and the 7 questions you MUST ask to make sure she is being honest about her intentions.

I’ve written a number of best-selling books that have taught thousands of men techniques and strategies to SUCCEED in today’s dating game. But I’ve never written anything about dating Asian women, because frankly, I didn’t realize there were SO MANY MEN that share my preference and want to get Asian girls.

But lately, I’ve been getting a LOT of emails sent to my website, MackTactics.com, from guys who are curious about this aspect of dating. They are fascinated by hot Asian women — and they want to know HOW and WHERE to meet them, or get a stunning Asian girlfriend.

If you have the means to travel to Asia, you have limitless options — but you NEED to know the spots to avoid, and where to spend your time. My book “Dating Asian Women” explains the “scene” in the different Asian countries, and where you’ll want to visit to find the hottest available women — from the best malls, to the coolest nightclubs, bars and “off the radar” spots where you can pick up beautiful Asian women all day long.

I’ve checked out the other books on the subject of dating Asian women, and quite frankly they are a JOKE. The authors of these books have very little “real” experience with Asian women. They’re taken a few trips overseas as a tourist, and now they’re out to make a quick buck by telling you basic, obvious information that you already know.

Dating Asian Women is the ONLY program out there that explains exactly how it is. Here are a few of the topics I cover in this one-of-a-kind book and video program:

* Techniques for approaching and starting conversations with Asian women, and making them feel a sense of “chemistry” with you.

* Understanding the different Asian cultures, and the needs and desires of these women.

* The one thing you must NEVER say to an Asian woman. (90% of men who like Asian women BLOW THEIR CHANCES by saying this.)

* Seduction tactics to enjoy a passionate, mind-blowing sex life with an Asian woman. (I know you don’t want to get stuck in the “Friend Zone” — you want to take it to the next level, and I’ll explain how.)

* Dating Asian Women on the Internet: How to GUARANTEE a response from the girls you contact, and how to meet her in person as soon as possible. (You MUST make her feel safe and comfortable. I’ll explain exactly how to do this.)

* Overseas travel tips: an in-depth guide to the best places to meet beautiful, available Asian women. China, Japan, Vietnam, Indonesia, Singapore, Macau, Korea, Thailand, the Philippines…this program covers it all, and gives you SOLID information on where to find the “action.”

* Dating Asian women in your town: how to locate the places where single Asian women hang out, and become a part of their “scene.”

And much, much more…

Click here to read more about the revolutionary Dating Asian Women program, and you’ll even get to download a FREE BOOK

about dating and “pickup” strategy. 

To your success!

Dean Cortez  

by Dean Cortez, co-author of The Alpha Rules

Hey, Dean Cortez here. Here’s an email I received from one of our readers, on the subject of how to get your girlfriend back. Keep reading for some very powerful tips and strategies on CHANGING the way your ex-girlfriend views you, and making her EAGER to get you back in her life…

* * * * *

Hi Dean. I loved reading the book you wrote with Carlos Xuma, “The Alpha Rules,” and I’ve been amazed by your solutions for guys who want to achieve massive self-confidence and game. Now I have a question for you.

A few months ago, I met a girl who is a hostess at a restaurant in my town. She’s extremely cute, and cool, and I asked her out and we had a great time. We really seemed to hit it off. We started seeing each other, and everything was going great, except for the fact that she didn’t want to get intimate with me. The one time I tried to kiss her, she explained to me that she wanted to “take things slow,” because she was getting over a really bad breakup.

I figured I could wait for the sex. With her, I knew it would be worth it, and I had to respect the fact that she had recently broken up with a world-class jerk who had put her through emotional hell. (The guy cheated on her with her best friend!)

Anyway, I spent a lot of nights hanging out with her at her apartment, listening to her problems and trying to help her get over her ex. She was also having financial problems (I loaned her money to cover her rent last month — still waiting to get paid back), and she had all kinds of drama with her family, too…

I tried my best to be supportive. When she would call me in the middle of the night, because she needed someone to talk to, I would spend an hour or two listening and sympathizing.

Then one night on the phone, she told me that she loved me. I asked her if this meant I was her boyfriend, and she said “yes.”

But still, she kept making excuses why she didn’t want to have sex. I kept being patient, and trying to help her with her problems, and then one day she didn’t return my phone call. Three days went by before I finally was able to get her on the phone. Her tone of voice was totally different. She was cold and distant. She got off the phone after only a few minutes, and later that night, I received an email from her.

She told me that she’d decided to get back with her ex-boyfriend. She said how sorry she was, and told me I was an amazing, great guy who deserved someone as wonderful as I am…blah blah…but I just felt PISSED OFF for wasting so much time and energy on nothing.

Then, a few days later, I got another email. She told me she was “so confused.” She said she really did love me, but she wasn’t sure what to do. She asked me if I would give her one more chance.

I really have feelings for this girl and I want to try to patch things up, and get the relationship moving in the right direction. So, do you have advice on how to get your girlfriend back? Or, should I just move on?

– Adrian, Vancouver

* * * * *

Dean Cortez here with some hard-core Alpha advice…

You, Adrian, wound up in the Friend Zone. This is a common situation with men who are trying to follow the “normal” rules with women. (In other words, being nice, sweet, respectful, and following her lead… )

Because let’s be honest. Is any guy ever satisfied having a female “friend” to talk to, when what he really wants from her is sex? No, of course not.

And it’s only a matter of time before she meets some other guy who DOES make her feel sexually attracted, and once they start hooking up she’ll no longer have any need to hang out with you. (Or, in your case, she goes BACK to the guy she had strong sexual feelings for.)

Do you really need female friends to talk to and share your problems with? No. You’ve got your buddies to fill that role in your life, and they can relate to you much better than a chick that makes you feel taken advantage of, and sexually frustrated.

So let me give you my Top 6 tips for busting out of the Friend Zone and getting women sexually interested in you. I can give you advice on how to get her back into your life, and if you really think she’s worth the trouble, you can use these tips to “re-ignite” your relationship with her.

1. Limit your availability. I’m willing to bet that whenever this girl does call you, you eagerly answer the phone and chat with her for as long as she wants.

You THINK that when you spend two hours on the phone with her, sharing your life stories and telling her about the girl who broke your heart when you were in the tenth grade, you’re building some kind of deep “connection” with her.

But what you’re actually doing is removing ANY sense of mystery about yourself, and letting her know that you have nothing else going in your life… and no other women. This is massively UN-attractive to her.

(I know that when you’re a man who is struggling with his dating life, and haven’t hooked up with a chick in a while, this takes a LOT of discipline. Your instinct is to make yourself totally available to her and try to spend as much time as possible with her. Well, go ahead and keep doing it this way, if you want to keep wondering why women lose interest in you… )

2. Until you’ve slept with a woman, limit your phone chats with her to five minutes. And don’t get caught up in constant text-messaging. Give her the sense that you’re a busy man with places to be.

Use these short phone calls, or text exchanges, to lock down your plans to see her again. Save the deep conversations for when you are actually spending time with her.

3. Women are moody and emotional. Get used to it, and know how to deal with it. When she start acting weird or distant, she is testing you. She wants to see how you will respond. Do you kiss her ass and ask her “what’s wrong?” Do you get frustrated and angered by her behavior? (Either of these responses will only make her get more moody!)

Or, do you behave like a firm, direct MAN? (Tell her, “Well, I can tell you’ve got some things on your mind right now, so why don’t you take some time to sort it out and get back to me. I’ve got some things I need to handle right now.”)

4. Her ex-boyfriend is irrelevant. Women commonly use the excuse, “I got out of a bad relationship recently, I don’t know if I’m ready for someone new, I don’t want to get hurt again,” etc.

It’s all crap, basically. The truth is, if she met a confident, attractive Alpha Man RIGHT NOW who made her feel a sexual connection, she’d forget about her ex-boyfriend in about 2.3 seconds.

TRUST ME on this

When she talks about her ex, and how she’s “not ready,” what she really means is that you’re not making her feel attraction, and so she’s testing you to see what kind of man you are.

You need to put her in a positive, fun state of mind and keep her there. When she thinks of you, she should think of fun times and feeling good about herself.

The last thing you want to do is allow her to dwell on her ex-boyfriend and be her “shoulder to cry on.” If she ever mentions him, change the subject.

And never refer to him by name because it only aggravates her emotional state. (Instead, refer to him as “that guy.” Make him seem irrelevant and insignificant.)

HER: “I guess I’m just in a bad mood today because it would have been my third anniversary with my ex, John…”

YOU: “Well it sounds like *that guy* didn’t appreciate you the way he should have, and it’s his loss. I’m just glad we’re getting to know each other, because I can tell there’s a lot more to you than meets the eye. So tell me more about ________”

(Change the subject onto something that gets her in a positive, talkative mood.)

5. Never confess your attraction to her, or try to engage her in a conversation about being her “boyfriend” now. Women interpret this as a sign of weakness. You’ve been taught by the media that woman want a soft, sensitive guy who isn’t afraid to confess his feelings. Actually, the opposite is true. She needs to know you are a strong, emotionally secure and confident MAN.

Once you’ve got a sexual relationship going with her, and she’s bonded to you, feel free to be a sweet, loving boyfriend and do all of the romantic things that drive her wild. But until then, you’ve got to play it cool.

6. Finally, be willing to “man up” and walk away. If for whatever reason she just can’t sort out her feelings, cut her loose. There comes a point where trying to figure out how to get your girlfriend back just isn’t worth your precious time and energy.

And trust me, if you were involved with two or three OTHER women right now, you wouldn’t HAVE the time and patience to play games with some girl who can’t make up her mind.

When you have multiple options, you will ALWAYS feel confident and in control.

Don’t make the mistake that most guys make, and place “all of your eggs in one basket.”

Once a woman has mentally placed you in “The Friend Zone,” it’s difficult to change her feelings towards you. Ideally, you never want to her to view you as her platonic, non-sexual “buddy” in the first place. This is why when you do meet up with women for a date, you’ve got to take things in a sexual direction.

This doesn’t mean you have to sleep with women by the third date, or by the end of the first month. There is no specific “time frame” for this. But you MUST establish some physical contact and make her feel that you’re a sexual possibility for her.

In our book The Alpha Rules, we explain the concept of Escalation, and how subtle body contact can progress “naturally” to intimacy and sex. Women love sex and intimacy as much as men do — maybe even MORE so. But you need to lead her down this path. You can’t take a passive role and expect her to initiate it.

On a final note, in a lot of cases — and this may apply to you, Adrian — the guy is better off chalking it up as a learning experience, and moving on. You’ve got to believe in ABUNDANCE. A woman who is a needy “drama queen,” always absorbed in her own problems, often cannot be “fixed.” This is her nature.

Some men are drawn towards dramatic, high-maintenance women. But Alpha Men don’t play this game. When you’ve mastered the 21 Rules in our book, you’ll honestly believe that you have a limitless universe of fun, sexy, exciting women out there for you to meet and date.

Most importantly, you will have HIGH STANDARDS. You won’t spend your precious time, energy and money on women who bring problems into your life. You will only associate with high-quality women who IMPROVE your lifestyle.

So, as for the question of how to get your girlfriend back, I’ve laid out some essential tips for getting her to view you in a new, “Alpha” light that will make her feel ATTRACTION instead of AFFECTION. How you use them is up to you…just remember, you might very well meet the REAL woman of your dreams in the near future.

And, armed with The Alpha Rules, you’ll know exactly how to attract her and build a totally positive, healthy relationship with her — founded on her respect for YOU as an Alpha Man.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

by Dean Cortez

Hey, Dean Cortez here with some solid first date advice that will make an AWESOME impression on a woman. Let me start by sharing an email that I received from one of our readers…

* * * * * Hey Dean and Carlos,

I recently decided to finally break up with my (now ex) girlfriend. She’d been controlling and manipulating me for the past four years. Anyway, I’m back on the dating scene now and excited about the possibilities.

I met a REALLY smoking hot girl at my gym and asked her out. But I’ll admit, I’m rusty with the “first date” stuff, I’ve been off the scene for a long time. And I want to make sure this date is perfect — with a girl this hot, I won’t get a second chance if I don’t make the right impression. Do you have any first date advice that will help me close the deal?

– Eric, New York City

* * * * * In order to pull off the ultimate first date, create a deep attraction, and hopefully steer things back to your place, you’re going to have to use the right methods and conversation strategies. These are explained in detail in our book, The Alpha Rules.

But for starters, here is some first date advice to always remember:

* Keep your spending to a minimum. With first dates, never try to impress her by shelling out the bucks. This puts you in the wrong position. Maintain the attitude that this is her chance to sell herself to YOU, not the other way around. Meet her for coffee (not at a Starbucks — find a cool, out-of-the-way, comfortable coffee shop for dates). Or, meet her for drinks. Skip the places that everyone knows, and find “date locations” that will show her you’re an original type of guy who knows the cool “off the radar” spots.

BONUS TIP: Make her feel extra special by saying to her, “This is one of my favorite places. I think of it as my private sanctuary, I never bring anyone here. But I thought you’d enjoy it so I wanted to show it to you.”

* Have a backup plan. The place you’ve selected could be closed for renovations, her ex-boyfriend might work there, who knows. Have a second location ready to take her to at a moment’s notice. The Alpha Man is a man of action, and always has a complete plan.

* Plan on keeping the date brief. For a first meeting, 1-2 hours is usually perfect. You want an escape hatch in case she doesn’t meet your standards. (Never plan some all-day activity with a girl until you’re certain you want to spend that much time with her.)

Also, unless you’re confident that you can take her home at the end of the night, it’s better to cut things short and create the sense that your time is precious and limited. You should be the one to decide when the date ends. (“Well I’ve got a huge day tomorrow, I need to be up bright and early…we’ll have to do this again soon.”) Don’t stretch things out so that she’s the one checking her watch and telling you she needs to get home.

End the date on a high point, before things start winding down, and plan on sealing the deal the next time you see her. As the greatest entertainers in showbiz know, you’ve always got to “leave ‘em wanting more.”

* Always be punctual. Forget about being “fashionably late”: it’s disrespectful and sets a bad tone. Make sure you know the directions to the location, and arrive 10 minutes early so that you’re totally prepared.

* Dress appropriately. It’s always better to be a little overdressed than underdressed. You can be sure she’s going to dress well for the date. She’ll feel uncomfortable if you roll in wearing a tee-shirt and shorts.

* Let her do most of the talking. Ask questions that prompt her to open up and share with you. Again, maintain the attitude that this is her chance to impress YOU. It’s better to be vague and cultivate a sense of mystery around yourself, than to tell her your life story within the first two hours.

Keep the spotlight on her. The more details she shares with you, and the more you seem to appreciate what she’s saying, the more it feels to her like a connection is building. This elevates you beyond the average guy, who treats every first date as if he’s auditioning for the position of her boyfriend, and feels he needs to “sell himself” by talking himself up.

Those are some quick bits of first date advice that will put you on the right track. Mastering the art of “date conversation” is the other big piece of the puzzle — the Alpha Rules book is chock full of techniques and strategies on this.

Why leave ANYTHING to chance? You only get one chance to make the right first impression. Let The Alpha Rules be your guide, and instead of ducking your phone calls in the future, she’ll be eager to see you again.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez